Well, it's something like this.......

When we break up with another person, or vice versa, we usually get damn fed up with the other person, but obviously under the 2nd situation. And because of that anger, usually arising from unknown or unreasonable reason or excuse respectively, we start calling the other person names. It's a natural behaviour. But come to think of it, if you really thought that person is "whatever you call him/her", how come you only thought of it when you break up? Has it never crossed your mind s/he is going to be like that? Don't answer "No" just yet. Think about it...

When you're with someone, obviously you'll know about that person inside out. What size clothes s/he's wearing, No, his/her character. I'm sure you'd thought of the extremes of that person. Ok, normally s/he shows the positive extreme, till the day you break up, that's when the horns grow. But at the time point of thinking, ever though of calling that person "whatever you call him/her"?

I'm saying this from having seen a lot of these, and my own experiences.

Second point. Want to prove to the other person that you'll be happier without him/her. Hah! That's so provincial... I have to god damn it admit, there's been happier days even in my relationships. No, I gave my 100% to the relationships. No, the gf's done a good job being one. But seriously, are your happy days only confined to those relationship days? That's a pity.

I'm not saying that my friend did the wrong thing, calling the ex names. Neither am I criticizing my friend. But it's my thoughts. I mean, from my personal experience, I got worse "aftermath remarks"... And usually after an end of a relationship, we say "Ah, let's still be friends. Perhaps we could do better..." And there we go, calling that person names, so hypocritical. I admit, I did it myself before. And come to think of it, it's disgusting. If you'd really want to value that person as a friend, spare those names. If not, just reject the friendship.

Speaking of being direct, I thought of how a-hole I've been towards this colleague. Colleague? Yes. I don't regard him as a friend. He's nowhere near acquaintance. He's just merely another human, competing with me the oxygen and space, and unfortunately for me, in the same working place.

So, I was telling another friend+colleague about him. And I admitted to him I've been rather harsh towards the colleague. I told the former, if I dislike a person, I'll make it obvious. I'm not making enemies (because I'm not backstabbing you, neither am I waging war with you), and I'm definitely not putting a front just to make me seem any pleasant. I hate it when person A obviously dislikes person B, puts up a front, on the account of good working r/s, and starts f***ing B behind his back when B totally pissed him off. So, that's me. A-hole.

But I'm not so good with telling people I like them. Kind of put such words into my mouth. Wished I had the best of both.

Anyway, just a reflection. I'm sorry my friend if you felt offended. There isn't any ill-intent behind my words.